“Mom, why are you taking a picture of your arm?”, my daughter asked. I was sitting on the couch capturing a photo of the huge bruise on my arm. My arm was black and blue from an unexpected surgery I had gone through the week before. ” It will help me as I recover emotionally to remember that I have gone through this surgery,” I tried to explain. I knew, that soon the bruises would fade, but the emotional pain and heartache I (and my family) had gone through would last much longer.
The need to record the physical evidence was powerful. Overcoming heartache and emotional pain is hard work. By capturing the physical evidence I felt like I was giving myself a link back to the traumatic event. And thus giving myself a reminder in the days ahead to allow for time and space to heal.
We all have hidden heartache and emotional pain. We rarely carry physical proof on the outside to testify to the trauma our hearts have endured. Break-ups, divorce, death of loved ones, miscarriages, infertility, court battles, crushing disappointments, abandonment, medical struggles, abuse, loss of dreams, betrayal… the list goes on and on. And though we often cannot see the pain physically, it is real.
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