It was the perfect storm. I was young and single. The doctor’s office I was under the care of for my pregnancy sent me to a different doctor for each visit. And by the time I delivered my baby, I was so emotionally stressed from my personal circumstances, that caring for myself physically was way down the list. 24 hours after I gave birth I was in agonizing pain only to be told that it was “normal”. With no one in the medical field truly overseeing my medical care, this began a 3 month long medical nightmare. It was definitely one life lesson on the importance of learning how to be your own health advocate. So I have put together, from that experience and my heart health journey, 8 ways to courageously advocate for yourself when seeking a medical diagnosis. [Read more…]
Much of America is currently trying to survive overwhelming natural disasters. Two category 4 hurricanes have hit land causing incomprehensible damage and as I’m writing this our country is remembering the attacks of September 11th. How do you think like a survivor? What is the difference between people who seem to fade away under the crush of overwhelming circumstances and those that seem to only grow stronger? This question that has always intrigued me. How do we resolve to think like a survivor? [Read more…]
“Mom, why are you taking a picture of your arm?”, my daughter asked. I was sitting on the couch capturing a photo of the huge bruise on my arm. My arm was black and blue from an unexpected surgery I had gone through the week before. ” It will help me as I recover emotionally to remember that I have gone through this surgery,” I tried to explain. I knew, that soon the bruises would fade, but the emotional pain and heartache I (and my family) had gone through would last much longer. [Read more…]
Earlier this week I shared Coping When Kids Leave Home Part I. Today, I would like to share the second part of that post, Coping When Kids Leave Home Part II. As I mentioned, it is more than just seeing your kids less. It is a new season. It is a reason to celebrate. You and your child made it through the growing up years. They are ready to leave the nest and start a new season in their life. However, as a parent it is challenging to see our kids move forward without us. How do we let go of one season in our relationship with our child in order to allow a new one to bloom? [Read more…]
Summer is almost here in the Midwest! My husband and children planted flowers, mulched and mowed Sunday making the yard around our farmhouse lovely. Now the view out my kitchen window is even more calming and beautiful. It made me think about those things in our lives that rejuvenate and allow us to relax and refuel. I thought it would be fun to put together a list of 9 soothing gifts for a stressed or weary friend.
I am blessed to have many wonderful gift givers in my life. When I feel stressed due to some big adventure we are in the middle of or weary due to needing to recover physically, inevitably a gift shows up. I love gifts! Love to give them and receive them. I especially enjoy sending a gift in the mail anticipating a friends receiving it! So what are some great soothing gifts for a stressed or weary friend. What gift will encourage your friend to take a breathe, find a minute for themselves, or gain some calming perspective? [Read more…]
I wanted to send you a letter of encouragement, as I was thinking about you today. Life is really hard for you right now, but I don’t want you to lose hope. My sweet friend, as you read my letter of encouragement may you feel strengthened and comforted.
My years as a single mom were so hard. I remember each day being a struggle. Some days I just tried to make it to bedtime. As we talked last week, I could hear in your voice that same struggle. But don’t give up. You are going to make it through this troubling time you are in right now. And there are so many wonderful days ahead for you! Please believe that!
I am so proud of you!
I want you to know how proud I am of you! You have continued to take care of yourself and your obligations even as you are struggling. You have not given up or just laid down hoping someone else will rescue you. [Read more…]
The woman sitting across from me was living in crisis mode. Fifteen years ago, I was just starting out as a court and family advocate. Part of the job I loved was talking with the clients that came into our agency. After hearing the woman in my office speak for close to half an hour, I was greatly concerned. She was in a very vulnerable position. Her current relationship was abusive. And to make matters worse she seemed trapped in crisis mode. [Read more…]
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I almost burned our house down that day. It all started when I was cleaning out my work desk downstairs. Little did I realize the mess that was about to unfold. Sometimes our dating lives can be like that, messy and nearly disastrous. So before you decide are you ready to date again, ask yourself the four questions below.
Many houses around here have a wood burning stove as a main source of heat in winter. It is so wonderful to sit around a warm wood stove with the fire crackling, enjoying a cup of coffee and time with your family.
One of the downsides to said wood stove is the ashes. You clean the stove of the ashes every other day, transfer them to a bucket and then dump the bucket once a week saving yourself constant trips outside.
I decided to throw some papers in the ash bucket that day instead of putting them in the trash (don’t ask me why). Forgetting about the papers a little while later, I dumped the ashes out of the wood stove into the bucket.
Smoke began to pour out of the bucket, which by the way was INSIDE my house. [Read more…]
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Have you ever had that feeling that something is off, but you are not sure what? For those of you who may not know, the picture above is of a round bale feeder. The cattle are SUPPOSED to stand on the outside and reach in with their necks to feed. This heifer decided to just stand inside the feeder! Not sure how she managed that! It did remind me of a job I had years ago where everything felt off, and how I was faced with finding the right job.
In the 90’s I began working as a flight attendant. In general, I loved this job. It was flexible, I had unbelievable flight benefits and the sun was almost always shining above the clouds.
But, alas, there came a time when I needed a job with more stable hours, where I was home every night. So I took another job. [Read more…]