Dear Friend! You are going to laugh at me, but I had an epiphany about motherhood the other night. It only took me 20 years. I’m so quick, I know! Ha! But anyhow, it reminded me of a conversation we had awhile back. So I wanted to share my epiphany with you. And of course, I just wanted to check in with you too:) So here’s my brilliant realization! My Dear Friend, YOU are the perfect mom for your child.
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Dear Friend, You are the Perfect Mom For Your Child
The dreaded Mother’s Day is coming up. So much expectation, ugh! I always appreciate being recognized but feel a little undeserving at times. Especially at church when everyone talks about how great mothers are. Ahem…didn’t you notice me yelling at my kids to hurry or we will be late? Or the fact that my daughter’s shoes are too tight because I didn’t get time to take her shoe shopping?
But you know what friend? It really isn’t about being THE perfect mom. It’s about being the perfect mom to our own unique child.
We want to be moms who continues to try to do what is best for our children. Who recognizes a “win” in our child’s life no matter what it looks like to the world. You are that kind of mom! You cherish every moment with each of your kids and have sleepless nights when you think you might be missing something.
I use to wonder, years ago, why God gave me, a single mom, such a strong-willed child. For years, I thought God had made a mistake (cause obviously I would have come up with a better plan, right! Lol!). If only I had been a funnier more naturally nurturing momma, I would think, it would have been better for my son.
But Friend, that was when I had the epiphany the other day. I WAS and AM THE PERFECT MOM for MY son! I tell ya, tears about came to my eyes. I was a mom who was just stubborn enough, hard-headed enough to stick with this thing called mothering. Even when it was really hard and I didn’t know how best to shape my son’s strong will, I didn’t duck out physically or check out emotionally. So while I didn’t do everything just perfect, I was an amazing mom to this child.
And I see that in you! You are exactly what each of your kids needs.
I hope that this Mother’s Day that you realize what a great fit you are for your children. Keep on recognizing your kids for the unique gifts they have. I love that you don’t compare your kids to each other or to other children. But you cheer your children on to be the best they can be, as you learn the most meaningful ways to connect and motivate them!
You really are amazing and the perfect mom for your child!
These Really Great Books I Discovered!
Did I tell you about these super books for tween girls? Well, I was chit chatting with a friend at my church, and she mentioned The Lily Series written by Nancy Rue. Well, my daughter loved The Lily Series! They are well written and naturally bring up topics like fashion, boys, puberty and growing up.
They have companion non-fiction books The Beauty Book and The Body Book. Enjoyable for a tween to read and a fun way to have “girl talk.”
The books are recommended for as young as 7. But I felt like they were perfect for girls 9-12 years old. So I thought of you and your daughters:) Your girls would love them!
Well, I had better run! Still have some things to pull together for the Ladies’ Tea we are having this weekend!
Thanks for the sweet reminder! I do feel like I was put on this earth to be THIS child’s mother.
Best feeling ever!
What a great reminder. It easy to forget in the hustle and bustle of the every day that God chose us as the Mother for our children.
Yes, it can be hard to not just focus on the details that need to be done and miss the big plan!
Heather Bee says
What a great reminder for this week! I sometimes forget that God did choose me to be a mom to my kids and that He doesn’t make mistakes. And I may just be able to relate to raising strong-willed children;) I always say that I’ve learned more than they have since I’ve been blessed with them!
That is true! I have learned so much from being a mom and helping to raise these amazing kids with their unique personalities.