There is an art to staying home. Ask most stay at home moms and you will quickly learn that while it is a blessing to be at home there are times when it feels like you never leave work. During this coronavirus quarantine, most families are probably hitting the brick wall, ready to head out the door, leave isolation and be with others. To keep our families their healthiest AND our emotional and mental sanity, I am sharing family coronavirus quarantine coping tips to help moms!
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Family Coronavirus Quarantine? 12 Coping Tips to Help Moms
Whether you are new to staying home all day or a seasoned pro, I hope you will find some encouragement and sanity saving tips with these 12 family coronovirus quarantine coping tips to help moms!
Time Block Your Family’s Day During Quarantine
The tendency when you are home all day is to be less intentional. This can allow for less productivity and the blah feeling of one long day bleeding into the next. Instead segment or time block your day!
When you block your day off in sections you can make time for the big goals on your to do list like work, quiet time, exercise, family time, and chores. This is also super helpful with kids because you can set aside specific time on your list when they will receive your full attention.
Time blocking leads to less whining from the kids that you won’t play with them. Blocking family or play time also helps kids get creative with how they want to use play time or family time!
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Care for Yourself by Getting Up and Dressed
While it is enjoyable to not have to get dressed first thing in the morning, make getting dressed each day a priority during this coronavirus quarantine. When you are home all day, it is helpful to send little triggers to your brain, that you are preparing for the next thing.
When you shower and get ready for the day, you are mentally preparing for the work you have set before you.
Getting dressed for the day promotes well being and is a great coping tip to handling quarantine life.
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Keep a Morning and Evening Routine During Quarantine
Care for yourself and your household by having morning and evening routines. Morning routines gives us something to look forward to first thing in the morning. Morning routines help us get up and moving.
Remember how we discussed creating triggers to tell our brain its time for the next thing? You can create little triggers such as putting on your work out clothes first thing in the morning to reinforce the idea that its time to exercise.
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I love having my Bible reading time first thing in the morning. But I get up and make a cup of tea and brush my teeth before heading back to my cozy bed with my Bible and tea. That little bit wakes me up and helps me to prepare to focus.
Some of my best writing time is also in the morning. After reading in bed, I’ll head to the couch to switch mentally from relax time to writing time.
Evening routines allow us to prep for the next day and then shift into winding down mode. Allowing time to unwind from the day helps us to set aside the worry and stress from the day!
Use the time to clean up the kitchen, tidy up a few things and then do something relaxing after the kids are taken care of. If you are going to get in another hour or two or work, try not to work up until right before bed. Save a half an hour or so to do something relaxing.
Cope Mentally with Stimulating Books and Podcasts
Staying at home can be slightly less stressful because you can focus your energy in one place. But at times, I feel a bit out of the loop. Sure I can jump on Facebook to feel apart of the bigger world. But I want to learn fresh ideas and not just pass along memes (at least not all day;)
Be inspired and educated when you listen to podcasts or download a new book.
Plus an added benefit, when you are learning you are modeling a love of education to your kids. And you typically have something fun to share around the dinner table in the evenings.
Create a Work Space for Your Home Office/ School
Even if you enjoy working in different areas of the house, try to keep things put away in the evening in a central location. When you work from home you can tend to spread out too much leaving papers and books everywhere. It may leave you feeling that work has followed you home.
Designate a central location to put away your work things. Yes, you may drag out everything the next morning, but it will make you feel so much more organized.
When the kids were younger, we tended to do school around the kitchen table. So we designed one kitchen cabinet to have a hanging file on one side and a bookshelf area on the other side. This way when school was done for the day, everything could be put away and out of sight.
Even though we didn’t “leave” school, we felt like we did since all the school books and tasks were stored away.
Cope with Stress by Creating a Daily Quiet Hour
Every home office and school needs a quiet hour. When I ask moms if they have some quiet time during the day, they remark that their kids no longer took naps. What?
Mom NEEDS some quiet during the day to cope with family quarantine!
So no matter if your kids have outgrown naps or are full grown, have some kind of quiet down time in the day.
When the kids were younger, they were allowed to play, but they had to stay in their room and do something quiet. Now that everyone is older, the kids usually enjoy some electronic time.
Tell your kids the plan and train them to do something quiet and keep their questions until AFTER the quiet time.
Coping with a lot of stress? Check out all the valuable posts here at BetterHelp on stress management strategies!
Schedule Daily Tidying into Your Family Quarantine
When everyone is home all day, everyday, it gets messy! Yikes! Have you seen those funny memes going around with the homeschooling chart that looks like a chore chart. There is some actually truth in there:)
When you are home all day, you need to build chores or some tidying up into your day. Some moms I know have the kids do chores before school starts. Others do it after. I like to do some general tidying up in the morning, such as unloading the dishwasher, putting away breakfast dishes and make sure the beds are made.
And household chores have the added benefit of burning calories as you can see thanks to this info graphic from www.bintheredumpthat.com
In the afternoon, we will do some more cleaning after our lunch/ quiet time.
Care for yourself as a mom and expect your kids to help by building small cleaning tasks into each day. When everyone is home it may not always look tidy as there are books and dishes out. But we can still keep it clean by expecting our kids to each have one thing to clean a day.
Need some appropriate chore ideas based on your kids ages?
Check out Amanda Sue’s Best List of Chores for Kids at Miss Sue Living. I love how she breaks chores down by age. And she has several fresh ideas I actually hadn’t thought of myself! I am so going to train Teen Red how to clean out the fridge on the weeks I am too busy!!
Learn Something New During Stay at Home
Use your time to take a course or learn something new that you know would improve your life and give you a little something to look forward to each day…JUST FOR YOU!
Completing courses is one thing that really helps me wake-up in the morning excited. And a beneficial course reigns in anxious thoughts as it gives me a focus and direction for the day.
Have you ever wished your day started more smoothly?
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Planning Fun Activities is a Key Coping Tip
Scheduling fun sounds…well, not fun. But actually when you schedule fun it can be beneficial for a variety of reasons.
When I stop to do something for myself, instead of feeling guilty I can relax more because I “planned” it. I’m not just wasting time. I am doing what I had scheduled to do!
Planning fun also helps your kids distinguish “fun time” and “work time”. Some kids can want your attention all the time. And I’m not just talking little kids. Scheduling out family or fun time gives you the ability to tell your kids, without feeling guilty, they will have to wait for your full attention til later.
Many tasks, moms can do and still listen to their child chat on and on about the latest show, or game or podcast. But sometimes, we need quiet to send an email, to complete a task for work or take care of bills. So utilize the “schedule fun rule” and give yourself the ability to focus on one thing at a time as needed!
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Cope with Isolation by Connecting to Others During Quarantine
My kids are constantly teaching me new ways to connect! I had no idea that you could talk by video through Facebook til my daughter-in-law and grandson video called me the other day! Or that you can download the Google Duo app so that Android and Iphones can video chat with another.
I had one of my techie brothers set up a Zoom call for all of us last Sunday. It was lovely to hop on and see everyone!
Make sure that you are finding ways to connect. Schedule a coffee phone date with a friend. Skype one of your kids if they no longer live with you. Or get everyone on a Zoom call!
Practice Self-Care by Sharing Your Fears and Struggles
Honestly, I struggled more with anger in the beginning of this pandemic than fear. I was angry about the government shutting down everything, crippling the economy, and how the media seemed to be hyping things up.
But I knew I needed to let go of my anger. So though our fears, anger or struggles may or may not be rational it is still good to acknowledge them. Reach out and send a quick text to a friend and tell them you hurting over it. Don’t act like you don’t feel the way you do, or just tell yourself you shouldn’t feel that way. At least grieve or feel the feels before you let go.
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A Facebook friend of mine put a post online asking people to not downplay her disappointment over a sports season being over. She was right. Even if I don’t understand her loss, because we aren’t a sports family, I totally get that as a mom she is feeling her son’s loss. We can all support one another even if we don’t understand exactly.
Evaluate Your Family’s Priorities
Use this downtime to evaluate your family’s priorities. Though this quarantine has been forced on you, it can be a good time to take a step back.
Has life been any different? For some of you life may be radically different. Others of us may not feel as affected by it. But we all can learn something.
Are your kids happier and less stressed with more downtime at home? Is your family talking more? Who are you missing seeing the most? What has it been like having so much less to do on the weekends? Are you surprised at how little you have to talk about as a family?
Have you enjoyed working from home without the office drama? Or do you miss the stimulating office conversations and collaborations.
Take a minute during this next few weeks and think. When life starts to get busy again, what do you truly want you and your family busy doing?
Family Coronavirus Quarantine? 12 Coping Tips to Help Moms
Which one of these stress and anxiety busting coping tips are you using? What is helping you? Drop your helpful idea below? Which coping strategy do you need to start using with your family to ease household tension?
Heather B says
Girl, this is sooo good! You really put some thought into this and I should be doing some of these myself to maintain my sanity. I think I’ll concentrate on getting dressed in real clothes a few times a week, even though I don’t go anywhere except for walking;) I think I’m enjoying not having to dress up during the week, but wearing leggings every day isn’t the best for morale. But they are comfortable…
Thanks Heather!! Yes, comfy clothes are good and not having to get so dressed up for work is a benefit to being home. But it is a good reminder to be aware of our mental and emotional health during this time. And sometimes we do need that boost of getting dressed or taking care of ourselves in some other little way:) Trying to care for myself this week, as I am feeling worn down by not going out and missing teaching my weekly group.
Karen Posselt says
This is such a good collection of helpful advice. You mentioned a bunch of ideas I hadn’t thought of – thank you!
You are welcome Karen! Love that you found a few new ideas.