It was the perfect storm. I was young and single. The doctor’s office I was under the care of for my pregnancy sent me to a different doctor for each visit. And by the time I delivered my baby, I was so emotionally stressed from my personal circumstances, that caring for myself physically was way down the list. 24 hours after I gave birth I was in agonizing pain only to be told that it was “normal”. With no one in the medical field truly overseeing my medical care, this began a 3 month long medical nightmare. It was definitely one life lesson on the importance of learning how to be your own health advocate. So I have put together, from that experience and my heart health journey, 8 ways to courageously advocate for yourself when seeking a medical diagnosis. [Read more…]
Remember when you got married? You were so in love! You saw only the best in your man. But somewhere along the way during married life it became harder to see the finest in one another. Do we just give up on what we want? Do we try to change our husband? What if instead of settling or driving ourselves nuts trying to change our man, we discovered his secret strength. Want to know a secret to a happier marriage? When you see and release the hero in your husband. So put on those rose-colored glasses girl! Because you are about to be amazed at the prize you won when you married YOUR man! [Read more…]
5 Day Celebrate Love Valentine’s Challenge!
I love Valentine’s Day!
But this hasn’t always been the case. During high school, I went to an all girl school and I would listen to the girl’s talk about what their boyfriends gave them or worst yet watch as they received flowers delivered right to our school. [Read more…]
It was decision time. Our second child needed to choose a college. It had been an exhausting process. I could feel myself slipping back into thinking, “If only.” If only we had filled out more scholarship applications. If only we had applied to more colleges! “Enough”, my brain finally told me. We are all searching for THE way to raise our kids so that they will have the best chance at life. It was several months after this critical time in out lives that I had a light bulb moment. There is no ONE way. Do you want to know why YOUR child will succeed? Because of that great mix of you, as the parent, and them as your child! [Read more…]
Anxiety comes in all forms. Anxiety can range from crippling to feeling like you are wandering around in a fog. As an adult, most of us don’t have the freedom to completely pull back from life till we feel better. So how do we gently move forward without plowing ahead, acting like we are fine. What is the balancing between self-care and self-pity? I put together 10 ways to calm your anxious thoughts and have a productive day, which I hope will be of comfort to you. Be encouraged to care for yourself as you take positive steps forward today [Read more…]
As I have been encouraging you all to choose a focus word and to zero in on your big goals for 2018, I thought I would share some of mine. For some of you , this shorter post will come as a relief! Hehee. But if you were hoping for something a little more substantial to chew on don’t worry. I’m planning out lots of great future posts for The Reluctant Cowgirl. So here is my focus word and top goals for 2018. [Read more…]
Being sick and tired of something is not usually a good thing. Unless you are talking about preparing to achieve a major goal. Unless we are so fed up with a habit we have or a pit we keep falling back into, we probably won’t do the hard work of changing. I have found, doing groups and watching my own habits that there is a secret to achieving your big goals. [Read more…]
I have always been stuck in the middle. I’m a middle child, and I tend to use phrases like “better safe than sorry” and “moderation in everything.” But I also do crazy things like decide to get a job 5 states away in Yellowstone Park during college or start a blog when I’m technically challenged. Creating goals and a plan is something I enjoy doing. But too much of a detailed plan makes me feel squirrelly. See? I’m stuck somewhere in the middle. That is why I love the concept of creating a focus word for the year. When you develop a focus word or phrase it allows you to have a target goal for yourself through which every decision in the new year is filtered. The bullseye remains consistent, but the plan on how to stay true to your overarching goal can be a little more fluid. Intrigued? [Read more…]
When scrapbooking was at the height of its popularity, I would look longingly at the beautiful crafted books that scrapbooking moms would create. They were just so beautiful! But scrapbooking required a lot of time and a chaos of paper, stickers and special scissors to be everywhere. Scrapbooking also required you to CUT your pictures, which is something I would agonize over. Alas, my scrapbooking career came to a screeching halt before it began. Which is why I have had to learn easier ways to record sweet family moments that only took a little time each day! So here are 6 simple ways to capture family memories in 2018 that only take minutes a day. [Read more…]